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I’m so pleased and proud to say that BABYHOOD has won an Award, after being part of Culture Unplugged Festival.

“To share with you in brief, a different guest panel of visionaries is invited for each festival to watch a small selection of films and identify the film that is most conscious in its selection of story, vision, and art of filmmaking—that awakens the global citizens and helps them usher life toward a new direction. ”

As well as making me literally jump for joy, it has propelled me into my next film with a deep sense of commitment.

This time I want to make a film that looks at childhood, in particular the process of being a child, and how the modern world is stealing so many elements of growing up from our children.

It has grown out of my questioning of the systems in place around schooling. As my 5yr old revels in the wonder of the world around him, I strive to keep that wonderment in place and have chosen not to send him to school.

Schools are testing children at younger and younger ages, and failing children at every level. Nature is being branded as a commodity, along with technology replicating real life experiences.

I want to question all of this and more.

Its complicated.

I will be uploading small clips here soon, let me know if this appeals to you, or if you have a story to tell.

peace and joy x

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This word is so loaded.

And so important.

I bumped into a friend today who is a Family Therapist and she has just watched the film, and she said she agreed with it…all of it. Her training taught her many of the things expressed in the film.

Especially with attachment theory.

What she said then has been food for thought for me for the last few hours.

When Suzanne Zeedyk talks about learning to calm down in the film, she explains that as adults we need to help our children calm down when they are upset. They need us to love them no matter how difficult they are being (and as a mother of a toddler – that can be monstrously difficult at times).

And it is in these exchanges, when they are most upset that the attachment bond forms. Not in the easy nice times that are so …easy.

It is when your child is pushing you off the edge of a cliff that they are learning about attachment…(and so are you!)

Fascinating huh?

Last night after the screening someone commented on the film, and I want to share it:

Wonderful film. I love how the emotional needs of children were highlighted so simply – finally attachment parenting is described as it should be – like a unique dance, not based on a set of practices but about honoring the needs of parent AND child.

“A unique dance” – what a wonderful way of describing it.

Bloggers Unite to Humanize Babies

The US has some of the highest rates of depression, anxiety, cancer, and other diseases in the world. Every year our government puts billions of dollars into funding programs that attempt to address these issues. The efforts are consistently ineffective. We are the leaders of the free world and we must remain healthy to stay that way.

There is a cost-free, efficient, and fulfilling way to heal our nation. This simple change requires no permission, program, or rhetoric, and it can start with you, today. By listening to our babies and accepting that their needs must be met, we can reduce disease and promote healthy members of society.

If you are skeptical, we understand. So for one week in July, a group of knowledgeable and respected bloggers are coming together to share how listening to our babies can heal our nation.

We invite you to join us in learning how to raise healthier children. We do not promise it will be easy- at times it will be difficult to hear what is being said. The United States of America has never shied away from the difficult, though. Instead, we choose to do the right things “not because they are easy, but because they are hard.” (John F. Kennedy)

“Listen To Our Babies, Heal Our Nation” agrees that meeting the needs of our babies is the most patriotic thing we can do for our country.

Babyhood is screening as part of this festival at 9 -10 pm EST on Thursday 5th July 2012

And then at 10-11 PM  EST there is a Q&A with me on Our Muddy Boots’s Facebook Page

*Organizer Contribution:  Amy Brown of Zen Parenting

“Listen to Our Babies, Heal Our Nation” Bloggers unify to humanize babies.

So I have found a term that I had to google to try to understand…it seems lots of parenting blogs in the US are calling themselves crunchy. I found this quiz , which duly I did and was told from my answers I am a “Super Nutty, Ultra-Crunchy, Granola Earth Mama!”

Anyway to try to define this to any of you who don’t know about crunchy, I am led to believe it means something along the lines of natural birth, organic eating, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, attachment parenting, delayed vaccinations and all the other hippie ideals founded in the golden age of the 60’s (before my time…!)

So my problem with it is as ever the fact that we need to label each other, and then be part of the gang or outside it. And as much as I like being an “earth mama” – granola isn’t paleo…

Once upon a time I would have happily been vegetarian, and have always avoided as much processed food as I could, but my DH has introduced me to the concept of Paleo evolutionary nutrition principles lately (i.e. low/no sugars, no processed food, no/low dairy, low grains, lots of meat/fish/nuts/eggs) and it has changed our lives. (if you want to know more you can check out: The Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson.) We are lucky as have a farmers market close by where we can buy direct from farmers, some free range and some organic.

So as I tuck into my crunchy peanut butter (organic and no added sugar!) rice-cake I am wondering whether I should label myself crunchy?

I am proud of my homebirth and believe all women can birth naturally given the opportunity

I love breastfeeding and know it is giving/has given my children the best start in life

I converted my life to living organically as much as possible soon after reading Silent Spring by Rachel Carson

Co-sleeping made sense to me especially after reading Deborah Jackson’s book Three in a Bed

I made my film Babyhood because of an instinctual feeling that attachment is so relevant to our lives…and I wanted to make it something that we can all achieve.

WOW – a very brave woman on the cover of Time magazine defending extended breastfeeding, and why not as she herself was breastfed until she self-weaned, and has warm memories of it. Interesting, as the conversations that are now going on are about her and the cover, rather than the portrait of Dr. Sears whom they call the man who remade motherhood.

In my film i talked to Suzanne Zeedyk about attachment theory, not to be confused with attachment parenting – although it is somehow born of the theory. Basically it is the idea that the better the relationship the baby has with it’s caregiver (s) the more chance that their brain will develop in the best way possible, and their ability to have relationships with other people throughout their lives will be optimal. It makes sense really.

It seems inevitable that women are getting defensive about how they are bringing up their children, as guilt and blame still feature so highly in this discussion. But I hope we can move away from feeling guilty about weaning our babies when we do, and accepting the differences in every family, and instead start to look as a whole at our attitudes towards babies and children, as we need to accept that…

“we have to take immense responsibility for care, as you [we] are generating the fundamentals of another human being for the rest of their lives” Camila Batmanghelidjh