This word is so loaded.
And so important.
I bumped into a friend today who is a Family Therapist and she has just watched the film, and she said she agreed with it…all of it. Her training taught her many of the things expressed in the film.
Especially with attachment theory.
What she said then has been food for thought for me for the last few hours.
When Suzanne Zeedyk talks about learning to calm down in the film, she explains that as adults we need to help our children calm down when they are upset. They need us to love them no matter how difficult they are being (and as a mother of a toddler – that can be monstrously difficult at times).
And it is in these exchanges, when they are most upset that the attachment bond forms. Not in the easy nice times that are so …easy.
It is when your child is pushing you off the edge of a cliff that they are learning about attachment…(and so are you!)
Last night after the screening someone commented on the film, and I want to share it:
Wonderful film. I love how the emotional needs of children were highlighted so simply – finally attachment parenting is described as it should be – like a unique dance, not based on a set of practices but about honoring the needs of parent AND child.
“A unique dance” – what a wonderful way of describing it.