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Serena Williams

 

It’s so hard when you feel completely out of your depth with a new baby. I made Babyhood because thats how i felt. And I couldn’t find the answers I was looking for anywhere. My mum had parented me in a completely different way and she couldn’t provide the answers. The books I looked around and found were full of strict schedules and making sure you let the baby know who was “boss”.

I heard babies crying in the street and felt compelled to answer their cries with agreement…”yes this world is not catering to the needs of babies!” We want to hush them down, placate them, silence their cries, but actually all they need is to be heard.

And Serena needs to be heard too, so desperate to be heard that she tweets her ten million followers and asks for help! The only problem is that each of the 10 million followers who want to offer advice have learned how to parent their small babies in a totally unique way, and no-one will be able to put Serena’s mind at rest.  Instead I want to help her realise that she has the answers deep inside, intuitively. Her baby has never known another mother, and how Serena is as a mother is perfect to her baby, just like her baby is perfect to Serena (even with all the crying). We learn to be mothers at the same time our babies learn to be mothered and it is a unique journey for each of us.

Babyhood looks at this world from the view of a baby and helps us to wake up to their needs, as well as rest into our own abilities to meet those needs. Let’s start to realise that babies aren’t foreign aliens who we never learn to understand but instead they are intelligent beings who communicate with us in a multitude of ways that we learn from them.

One thing we have been doing for a very long time is having babies so it is locked into our genome somewhere, and just needs to be heard…

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I just found this review of Babyhood on Sausage Mama.

How I wish I’d seen this documentary when I was first pregnant. How I wish I’d seen this when I was pregnant again, so I could be gently reminded what direction I wanted things to go in parenting wise with my toddler. How THANKFUL I am to see this now, when we seem to have gotten a little unbalanced with technology and ‘entertainment’ instead of ‘playing’ with my 4 year old and my almost 2 year old. As always, I’m reminded to simplify, simplify. Just as I’m getting ansy about not getting back into the workforce yet, because I would like some nice stuff for once, I’m thankful to be brought back down to Earth.

I am so pleased to find things like this out there! Thanks Sausage Mama!!

i feel compelled to write about why i had to make my film and what i hope it might achieve.

when i got pregnant i was running a small business and spent much of my time working. As my tummy grew i started to take my foot off the peddle and felt a growing desire to experience the process my body was going through. It was an amazing thing, and out of this awe came a deep sense of respect for my body as a woman and for this baby who was growing inside me.

When i eventually gave birth I felt as if i was reborn myself, nothing i had done previously in my entire life even started to compare to the elation of giving birth to this baby. I can look at the photo’s taken at that moment now and feel again the freshness of birth, the feat of birthing, the pain mixed with pure pure joy. the overwhelming love of this immaculate creature.

the next weeks and months are a blur, but what i do remember was listening to the communication my baby was showing me. each cry meant something, and i would spend hours trying to decipher it. i would sometimes be outside and hear other babies crying and feel compelled to pick them up and comfort them, allowing them the release of their emotions and letting them know that their cry did mean something to this wide open space they have now come to inhabit. Imagining the cosy comfort of a womb, and the beauty of always being nourished without having even conceived those feelings of hunger, air, cold, noise, space…

listening to our babies first cries is probably the first way we can start to see them as individuals, begin to understand that they too will grow up and be people just like us one day.

and for me the responsibility sometimes seemed too much to bear, the idea that through our relationship i would help him to become a confident, secure, loved and loving individual. Huge. But each day i would find myself growing with him, allowing him to discover the world around him and being there for him to come back to my warm embrace when his exploring took him out of his comfort zone. My respect for him grew, and in the first year i tried not to lay any boundaries, so that he would be true to his primal instincts without me layering my experiences of the world on top of his, so he became a mini version of me. i found other ways of saying no. He climbed the stairs, we spent hours walking the streets so he could open and close every gate. i found a way of being able to respond to his cries of pain in a way that didn’t communicate my feelings of worry to him. our love affair grew and grew, and continues to grow and i learned to respect him as a human being.

Respecting our babies and children means listening to them, means not lying to them, means finding strategies to help them to form boundaries, means not hitting them, not punishing them, not feeding them a load of junk that has huge health implications for them in the future. I made my film in order to address these issues, to help other mothers out there to listen to their own instincts and find their own way with their babies. But most of all to give our babies a sense of ease in the world, to feel they do have a voice, and it is as important as any other.

we are all equal.

we need to realise this and believe it.

we can do anything, we just need to trust ourselves.

our babies arrive in moments of passion and pleasure – lest we forget

this is human. this is life. respect it.

so just after i finally finish my film, a baby boy arrives! had a water birth at home, which was amazing. he is lovely and i am in babymoon….aaaahhhh

will get the film up as soon as i can stop gazing at him…

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So it’s friday february 17th, and i am a few days off my due date, and feeling big and round and ready to pop. Most importantly though I have nearly finished my film. So here is the blog and I will post the trailer on here after Ollie and I work out some music to put on it tomorrow.

It’s been a long journey, but a wonderful one and I hope you will enjoy this film as much as i have making it!